When parents think they do nothing in the lives of their children or that they do enough; it is then, that they should sit back to think, because everything a parent does in silence and in action goes a long way in a child’s life. Becoming a parent is more than bringing a child into the world. It has nothing todo with breast feeding or sperm donations either because it takes more and even more to be called a parent and contrary to people’s beliefs, a parent can forget a child (Isaiah 49:15). In raising a child, parents often meet joy, unanswered questions and more unknown lessons which prove that generations later seem either easy or difficult to tame. Many parents see the grooming of their kids as joyful but others conclude on the worse and believe raising a child is never a thing of joy. The risk of raising a child has often been linked to the needs of the child. Parents irrespective of their status quo believe every child grows into the mother figure they have around them and this has led to a conclusion that mothers are the real parents. They believe that mother’s responsibility begins with child birth but comes to an end with their death. There has never been a child that ever existed without a parent; either he or she was raised by a single mum or widower. A child can never just appear […]
A Nigerian student Victor Olalusi has emerged the best graduating student with a grade point of 5.0 in the Faculty of Clinical Sciences at the Russian National Research Medical University, Moscow. According to his friends, Olalusi previously had the best WAEC result in 2004. JAMB Best Science Student (JAMB score 322) – 2006. Cowbell Prize Award – 2006. Medcine First Merit list (OAU) – 2006. Highest OAU Post UME (score – 325) – 2006. Federal Government Scholarship (Medcine and Surgery) – 2006. Am so glad he’s Nigerian.
Dear father and mother, thank you for giving birth to me and not aborting me. Thank you for not sleeping comfortably when I arrived and never complaining. Thank you for the breast milk which until I grew up never knew was sour. Thank you for the warm clothes. Thank you for lifting me up as a child and speaking to me as though I understood you so I do not shed a tear again. Thank you for taking pictures of me so I know who exactly I look like because it seems I only had one person’s eye or nose by your analysis. Thank you for my name and adding your name to it. Thank you for sending me to school but really teaching me all I needed to know at home. Thank you for telling me what friend was good, before I knew who really wasn’t needed. Thank you for talking to me about puberty; I knew you were also shy about the topic. Thank you for telling me what to wear and buying what you thought was in vogue. Thank you for pocket money; please don’t hesitate to keep it coming even though you feel I am married- I will tell you when to stop. Please understand we live in a different generation; stop embarrassing me or telling me how to do things, ask me what I want first. Please note that the way […]
Ever heard the say don’t become friends with your ex? Well, what if your ex, wasn’t your ex? Relationships as it seems, sometimes end up with captions most people hate to talk about ‘we broke up’, ‘I never want to see him/her again’, ‘he cheated’ but sometimes relationships also end up because of the situations which become inevitable and no […]
24-year-old Uwa Osamede Imafidon (Nigerian Born), just graduated from the University of Texas at Arlington(UTA) in the US with a Master degree in Microbiology and she made a 4.0 CGPA out of the maximum 4.0 CGPA. Before her sojourn abroad, she had earlier bagged a First Class Degree in Crop Science from University of Benin, Benin city Nigeria as the Best Graduating student in her Department.
I was out with a friend who gave me a story about a couple who met in London; the guy had a setback while schooling in Nigeria he had to come into the UK to start his undergraduate again. The lady had done her undergraduate in Nigeria and was in London for her Masters- they were together for the years in London but she had to return to Nigeria but before she did, the guy in question broke up with her months before. His reason was that he didn’t know what he would do next and that he felt he would waste her time as he felt that she was not getting any younger and he was still going on in school and she was through. Well according to my friend the lady is married in Nigeria. While listening I couldn’t help but wonder do people get scared of their future in relationships? If we go in knowing how a relationship would end, would we treat those people the same way we would treat them? There are always reasons why relationships won’t end up in marriages but then again are there people in relationships who love each other but see no reason to be with each other? I hate blogging or talking about relationships because the topic is endless- you never know how to end the discussion or who might think you are opinionated about it even if […]
Is your success with someone else or with you? Strange as that question sounds, it is a vital question that many of us need to answer. I often hear people say they have to remain friends with some people because they never know where life would bring them together again or what that other person might do for them and it makes me wonder if ever people had the idea that favor is rendered not by good will but by peaceable spirits. The Nigerian Yoruba adage says “Omi le yan, ma se yan” (People are like water, don’t offend them). Come to think of it, it didn’t say don’t let them go or keep them, it says, don’t offend them. But then again, what will someone do to you that will make you withhold a helping hand when it is your turn to render it? People often advice that we do not remain friends with our ex(s) because they let us down and for some, there is a believe that keeping in touch with your ex helps them see what they have lost or helps you retain a friendship which might lead to your favor or help somewhere in life. If people were to hurt us emotionally by refusing our advances or if they strayed away from us after a good love gone bad, would we turn them down in the future when we have the ability to […]
The hour of the night is usually linked to an hour where many unseen, unusual and even unexplained things are done. Man is often asleep at this time and many do not see or identify a man’s heart especially at times like this because he simply can do things no one can see. When things are done in the dark, it is hard and most times rare to identify what exactly is being done or who exactly carries out what act, little wonder a link can be made to those things done in the secret. The human mind has a heart on its own, it has emotions and can always identify when indeed it hurts another or when it goes astray. It can play a major role in one’s life and it is the greatest battlefield anyone can conquer. Many a time, things we do that hurt others and even ourselves begin behind closed doors, closed hearts and hidden corners. Relationships get broken when parties begin concealed relationships or lifestyle unknown to the other, marriages get destroyed because people involved start looking aside and friends feel betrayed not by things we do staring or accompanying them with but by those things we do when they look aside or least expect it; the unseen usually brings the seen pain. In hidden spaces, men have torn each other apart. Things have been done behind closed doors and unsaid […]
Does speaking bad about a sister literally mean you are jealous? Usually girls get all over each other on the issue that one person’s make up is better, or one person’s breast is bigger or one person has an un- usual bum shape and this makes one wonder, “especially the male sexes”- are we ladies jealous of each other? Jealousy is generally taken to be a relationship syndrome that occurs when a man gives his attention to anyone other than his woman. A woman is not a man’s possession but if at anytime, his time or his finance is spent on someone else which could lead to sensual issues, “his woman” is bound to be jealous. However when this jealousy has nothing to do with such scene, is it still jealousy? Ladies these days take time out to put on make up, put on accessories and even clothes that make them stand out from others. Take note that this statement concerns a majority of 75%, thus leaving others to be those who take no interest in doing something else to enhance their looks. The belief then is that those who do not enhance themselves, are jealous of those who do. Women among the opposite sexes are nags, they worry over nothing most times and they create dramas just to get attention either from male counterparts or sometimes themselves; Little wonder when they quarrel with each other it is as if […]