I was out with a friend who gave me a story about a couple who met in London; the guy had a setback while schooling in Nigeria he had to come into the UK to start his undergraduate again. The lady had done her undergraduate in Nigeria and was in London for her Masters- they were together for years in London but she had to return to Nigeria. But before she did, the guy in question broke up with her months before. His reason was that he didn’t know what he would do next and that he felt he would waste her time as he felt that she was not getting any younger and he was still going on in school and she was through. Well according to my friend the lady is married in Nigeria.
While listening I couldn’t help but wonder, do people get scared of their future in a relationship? Why did she stay without knowing about the future?If we go in knowing how a relationship would end, would we treat those people the same way we treated them when we claimed love? There are always reasons why relationships won’t end up in marriages but then again are there people in relationships who love each other but see no reason to be with each other?
I hate blogging or talking about relationships because the topic is endless- you never know how to end the discussion or who might think you are opinionated about it even if you aren’t. The couple from the story however gives me and am sure many different questions to ask- was the guy in question scared of losing her? Was he in love with the lady at all? Could the relationship have gone on if he had a job? Would he not still have an excuse or a reason to break things up? Did he do the right thing by sending her away? Does distance affect relationships even when they have a foundation, whereby they already know what they want? Was there nothing to keep them together?
I hate it when people say must you marry who you are in a relationship with? In the first place its not compulsory you are in a relationship but if you are, know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Like I said I hate blogging about relationships. It goes on and on, and the discussion is never over. I do however wish that only mature people embark on relationships because while mankind calls his shots for how things should be, the universal maker finds a way to sort everyone out.