Planning For Marriage…

I often wonder why people say they are not ready for marriage- I know I am not in the right position to say this but my observation is what really makes me wonder- because many people really live with the idea that they are not ready for marriage.   Marriage is a binding union, it is something that comes after a relationship is established and people who have been in a relationship want more from one another- it is a symbolism of respect to a woman and a sense of belonging to a man.   It is often sad though, that no matter how beautiful a marriage is, things beyond our explanation happen; A man meets a woman, both of them earn a living, they meet on different occasions and the man says I really want this woman forever, they get married and five years down, no child, things just go wrong. The unplanned which they never thought would happen despite their love for a child or even their ability for provision happens- even though they are in love. Now another couple have no earning, or let’s say they do but they have a little lower than the earliest couple- but all in all, they stay with one another and probably like most lovers, they tie the knot- now kids come, bills come. How exactly do all this couple get ready for all these things or not get ready.   I […]

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THE LIES WE BELIEVE by Suzie Hardy

Isaiah 28:15-18 reads: You boast, “We have entered into a covenant with death, with the grave we have made an agreement. When an overwhelming scourge sweeps by it cannot touch us, for we have made a lie our refuge and falsehood our hiding place.” So this is what the Sovereign Lord says: “See I lay a stone in Zion, a tested stone, a precious cornerstone for a sure foundation; the one who trusts will never be dismayed. I will make justice the measuring line and righteousness the plumb line; hail will sweep away your refuge, the lie and water will overflow your hiding place. Your covenant with death will be annulled, your agreement with the grave will not stand.”   As we are in this journey of recovery we see these verses played out. It says, “you boast.” We took pride in our addiction. We deceived ourselves to the point of boasting in our escapades. This passage goes on to say that in our boasting we “made a covenant with death, with the grave we have made an agreement.” I am sure we could look back through our lifetime of dealing with addiction and can see that we cheated death on numerous occasions. If it is not a certain death, it might be the slow death from the abuse we put our bodies through that would kill us eventually.   The last part of the next verse states “for we have […]

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To The Insecure Lady…

So your boyfriend/Husband has a lot of female friends and this is a problem for you and when I say a lot, I mean he has a set of female friends who he gives attention to, may be not all the time but whenever he does, he talks and chats with them like they are dating or they have something going and of cause, this is something you don’t like. Having this feeling isn’t a rare characteristic in relationships, in fact in a world where people communicate with each other regardless of time and distance (Flirting or Sexting), this issue is on a rise and many relationships, deniable or not, suffer from the idea that partners communicate with friends in ways that they communicate with each other when they want to play and flirt around with each other to keep their relationship going. When things like this happen though, it is obvious that when we pay attention to those people our partners play with, it is because we are jealous, we feel a sort of insecurity and most of this is because we are in love. Being in love with someone makes one feel special, it makes us feel a sense of security and when those we feel it with do those things they do with us with someone else, our emotions run wild. Now I will be crazy to tell a lady or a dude to stop feeling insecure […]

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Famous ‘failures’ worth a fortune

Career set backs happen to the best of us. Whether you’ve been made redundant, failed an exam, made a bad business deal or had the door shut in your face, it can leave you questioning yourself and your abilities. Take heart. Some of the world’s most successful men and women suffered crushing failure – and came back stronger than ever before.   J. K. Rowling: £560 million   As rags to riches stories go, few are more inspiring than author Joanne K. Rowling’s. In the early 1990s, a marriage break-up had left her unemployed and living on state benefits with a dependent child –  in her own words, ‘poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless’. During this time, she was diagnosed with clinical depression and even contemplated suicide. Although she saw herself as ‘the biggest failure she knew’ she has since described the experience as liberating.   Giving a talk on the ‘Fringe Benefits of Failure’ she said: ‘Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy to finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one area where I truly belonged. Rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.’   Harry […]

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TYLER PERRY SHARED THIS ON FACEBOOK..

44 FOR 44 At 44, here are 44 things that I have learned and know to be true. Have a great day today my friends. 1. Yes, God is real. 2. Your gift can make room for you. 3. A baby can heal broken hearts. 4. A mother’s love is stronger than distance, more powerful than time and can transcend the grave. 5. Take time to smell the roses but be careful of the bees. 6. God will really make your enemy your footstool. 7. A footstool is only needed when you need to get higher. Let your enemy lift you. 8. God will prepare a table before you in the presence of your enemies so let them watch you eat. 9. Be careful what you say, life and death truly are in your own words. 10. There will be rough nights but joy really does come in the morning. 11. Fear is a spirit that really can stop you from living. 12. God has not given us a spirit of fear. 13. The joy of The Lord really is strength. 14. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re lonely. 15. True love can come more than once. 17. Life is short but heartache is shorter. 18. Don’t share your dreams with everyone and don’t be angry with non-dreamers. 19. It takes a while to build a dream. 20. The dream will outlive the dreamer so dream big. 21 If […]

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IF YOU LOVE HER…

People live and breathe, the economy floats and favors who ever it chooses, countries go to war, but people never stop loving each other, they never stop the act of love and this is what the bible says is the greatest gift. People are drawn to love more easily than they are drawn to anything in the world; we conquer a lot with love and no matter what we do, we can never run away from it. People go into relationships, being attracted to one another, finding interests in the same thing and spicing up things with activities that keep them going. Men and women go on loving one another regardless of religion, tribe, state, country, want and need. Ladies go on loving their men regardless of character, wealth and attribute, of cause this happens with the men but very often most men loose themselves, wanting more than their women would give, forgetting to love their women, forgetting how to love and forgetting to care for them. Loving a woman, is a woman’s job, it is never as easy as it seems or a book can tell. Women know what they want. Think of it this way, of all the men who always wanted them or still want them when they are with you, how could she pick you- what do you think makes you special? In truth, she’s the only one that can give you that answer. Women are […]

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DUTIFUL WIFE

And if all said and done He still insists no work for you, And you are at home sulking and feeling unfulfilled, I know the feeling. Don’t disobey him. Don’t be rude to him. Don’t over react Still be the dutiful wife. Make his meals in time Let the house be very tidy The children too. Home work done on time, bla bla bla. At home, Be relevant Be relavant sis! You don’t get relevance form Africa Magic or E channel You don’t get relevance by the gossips in the neighborhood. There must something you are good at Writing? Designing? Do one for him Reading? Planning? Sewing? Make a shirt for him Praying? Excercise? Buy a newspaper And read page to page Go online, there’s so much you can learn on the www aside facebooking Just be relavant within the confines of your husband’s instruction Until such a time when God will touch his heart to allow you work Do something by all means Rearrange the house, The bedroom, The kitchen. Dont sit in front of the TV all day eating and adding weight. I trust God and agree with you that he will soon change his mind. amen. As you continue to do what your husband wants I believe God that your husband too will soon do what you want. In the meantime, Be relevant! Be current!! Be happy!!! It is well!   This is from Lara Wise, a […]

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THE BLESSINGS OF MEDITATION by JOYCE MEYER

And the Lord your God will make you abundantly prosperous in every work of your hand…. If you obey the voice of the Lord your God, to keep His commandments and His statutes which are written in this Book of the Law, and if you turn to the Lord your God with all your [mind and] heart and with all your being. For this commandment which I command you this day is not too difficult for you, nor is it far off…. But the word is very near you, in your mouth and in your mind and in your heart, so that you can do it.—Deuteronomy 30:9–11, 14 Please make everything easy and simple for me, dear God. I don’t like to struggle, and I want constant victory without exerting any effort. Let me go on my way as I let You do everything to keep me secure. I’ve never heard anyone pray those words, but I have heard people pray in such a way that they were asking for an easy time in life. Too many people want victory without battle, triumph without effort, and ease without labor. God’s world simply doesn’t function that way. “It’s just too hard.” I wonder how many times I’ve heard people talk that way. I wonder how many times Joyce Meyer has talked that way. And I did. There was a time when I’d make a firm stand for following the Lord, but […]

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SLEEPING WITH BRA

This was a debate on Oprah and I am sharing it with you as many of you have no knowledge of the idea of sleeping with a bra and for many who still have a debate on it. A debate broke out in O’s fashion department–a few staffers strongly argued in favor of keeping breasts supported 24/7 to prevent sagging, while the rest of us said strapping our chests down at night just isn’t worth the trouble (or discomfort). Which is when our creative director Adam Glassman stepped in, declared it a toss up and asked me to get to the bottom of this bra (or no bra) battle.    I called in the experts, bra whisperer and founder of Intimacy boutiques, Susan Nethero, and Phil Haeck, MD, and president of The American Society of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeons, to find out what’s myth and what’s fact when it comes to keeping the (ahem) girls perky. The average breast size has increased over the past ten years (DD and E are average cup sizes today), says Nethero. Many of her clients who have fuller busts or are pregnant (which causes breasts to swell) like the support of a bra at night, as well as smaller busted women who like a feeling of security. She recommends a bra with a soft cup, no under wire or metal clasps, and a shelf or cross-over construction. Be sure to get properly fitted, she adds, as improper cup […]

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GERALD ROGER’S ADVICE AFTER A DIVORCE – A FEMININE RESPONSE

  Part I   Like Gerald Roger, I am not a relationship expert but unlike him, I have never been married so I am definitely not an expert and maybe I don’t know as much has he knows. However, I am a writer and when I read a beautifully written piece; I get all steamed up and become obligated to give a response in the way of my own writing.     The man that would strive to do half of what Gerald has written is a King. The bad news is – Kings have subjects as well as slaves and prisoners. The good news is – Kings also have queens. Therefore, I would say to all women, if you find yourself a King, help him to treat you as Queen. He can only treat you as a Queen if you compliment his effort at being a King by being a Queen.   What does it take to be a queen? Let us take the approach of looking at the feminine responsibility to all Gerald has listed as his advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage.   1.    Never stop being court-able.   It is useless putting a fine dress on a pig if the pig would run into dirt any minute. Meet your man half way; if he asks you out on a date, let the butterflies fly in your stomach (the good butterflies). Get your hair, nail eyebrow and eyelashes done. Buy a new dress […]

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BECOMING A RELIGIOUS LEADER

Being a martyr for something you believe in has always been something that fascinates. It has always left a sense of wonder that makes another believe that there is a God regardless of what belief or God the other have served. Serving gods/God entails sacrifice, it entails a greater belief in a thing than yourself- you have to believe that what and whoever it is you choose to worship is greater than you and can make things happen for you by every means possible. A study of different religious beliefs and their followers have shown a huge amount of people who have existed or still exist, who believe in something that they can die for. It shows a group of people who believe in things they see and cannot see, people who believe in powers who recognize and do not recognize them and what it is, they are willing to do for their God/gods who pays no homage or pays homage to them. Many believers of different gods or God have often said one or two persons have had a personal encounter with their God; they have come up with ideas and visions which have made other thousands or millions of people believe that, the gods or God truly exist. Having an encounter with the gods/God you serve is usually a divine opportunity- it is one that can make you a leader to many and it is usually a great […]

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