I often wonder why people say they are not ready for marriage- sometimes, some people don’t even know what this means and my observation is what really makes me wonder, because many people really live with the idea that they will never be ready for marriage.
Marriage is a binding union, it is something that comes after a relationship is established and people who have been in a relationship want more from one another- it is a symbolism of respect to a woman and a sense of belonging to a man.
It is often sad though, that no matter how beautiful a marriage is, things beyond our explanation happen; A man meets a woman, both of them earn a living, they meet on different occasions and the man says I really want this woman forever, they get married and five years down, no child, things just go wrong. The unplanned which they never thought would happen despite their love for a child or even their ability for provision happens- even though they are in love. Now another couple have no earning, or let’s say they do but they have a little lower than the earliest couple- but all in all, they stay with one another and probably like most lovers, they tie the knot- now kids come, bills come. How exactly do all this couple get ready for all these things or not get ready.
I presumably can say that no one is ever ready for marriage or its predicaments- good or bad. Like many, we are never perfect beings, we handle our issues differently and like a big advice I once received, I would suggest that we bond and make every effort to settle with those who in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, would stay- just thinking out loud though- because I know, many would object this and say they would never settle for less- we really define what we want.
Marriage is a journey, it is a journey that only comes to an end in death, it is never rosy, it never gives a promise and never fulfills a man except he wants it to, it is like life itself where- you ALWAYS have something to learn from it.
Quick Advice from Pastor Chris Ojigbani
What is the basic financial requirement for a man before marriage?
There are many men who do not want to get married until they become very rich. In some cases, it may take them years to make the kind of money they need before they get married. Some end up not even making the money. The truth is that you don’t need excess money to get married; rather you need marriage to make excess money. The principal financial requirement for a man before marriage is to have a job that gives him a basic salary, no matter how small. It is very important that you have a regular source of income. If you are operating your own business, ensure you make a steady income no matter how little. Once you have a job and accommodation no matter how little, you can get married. When you are married, God says, you have found a good thing and you will obtain favor from him (Proverbs 18:22). The marriage will not only increase the level of God’s favor upon your life, it will also increase your spiritual strength. The combination increased favor from God and making excess money when you go about it the right way. God bless you!