The perfect woman does exist. She exists on the face of the earth, as a friend, a girlfriend, a companion and a wife. She is not the rude woman who sees the wrong in everyone, she is not an unfriendly friend who lends no helping hand, she is not as wealthy as you think wealth to be, but having her would means being a wealthy man. She is always a busy woman, a business oriented person with lots of skills. She is not the most beautiful woman you would meet but she is the most respected. She is the woman every man wants to date but the woman that stays faithful to one man. She is often the contented woman, who loves her independence. She is the peaceful being. She is a loving person with lots of care for those she loves. She never appears to be perfect as she says, she is still a learner, admitting her wrong. She is not without an issue but she is one who comes out better. She is humble and she is a nag; she complains about the things she dislikes and communicates the best way she can when she feels sad and loves till she can love no more. She is a sacrificial woman with lots of respect for people, she apologizes for her wrong and weeps. She is what you make of her, the love you show to her and the […]
The woman who invented the phrase “ALL MEN ARE THE SAME” was a Chinese lady who lost her husband in a crowd in china. We believe that all Chinese people look alike and supposedly, so do they sometimes. The idea however to many women is that all men are the same; they lie, cheat and say nasty things. Women fall in love over and over either with the same kind of men or the same men who think the same way and conclude that all men are the same. It could be though that men do the same things to them because they do the same things to men, but the question remains that are men really the same? Do all men really treat women the same way? In spite of the way you or anyone has ever understood a male specie, it will be better that you begin to see the good in them because like it or not, Not all men enjoy or pride themselves in cheating Not all men even cheat Not all men will pray with/for you Not all men go through the same things (they also respond to issues differently) Not all men love football Not all men would give you a Birthday/Christmas/Valentine gift or even a gift Not all men wear the same things, because everything doesn’t fit everyone Not all men will touch your private parts in public even if you allow him […]
A letter to a dear friend: You came to see me last night to tell me that you have decided to get a divorce. Last night I only listened, but this morning I woke up with a hope for you. For the past five years, I have been meeting with elders who have been married for 25+ years to get understanding from many perspectives as to what marriage and love is all about. Almost all the couples have said that at some point in their marriage they have stumbled upon inevitably difficult moments that called for a break. I spoke to one couple who had a few years apart only to re-discover their desire to grow old together and to do what was necessary to continue to deepen their love for one another. My hope for you is this, that you consider taking the route that some of our elders have taken in giving your marriage some space and time before the drastic decision of divorce. Answers to big questions need time to find lasting truth vs the truth of the moment. After this process the answer may be the same, but at least you will have the clarity to go about it all with certainty and integrity, but you may also find that spark that could save and rekindle your marriage. My humble thoughts.
He was the winner of Mr Ideal Nigeria 2012, he traveled to London for photo shoots with his sponsor Visk n Surprises, he has worked as an Isis Model and was awarded the Most Handsome and Ladies Man by Dynamix 2012, he won the fresher of the year award given by Ace 2012, he won Mr National Association of Science Student 2012 (NASS), he co-hosted the Miss Omolewa/Mr Teen Nigeria 2013 and he recently crowned the new Mr Ideal Nigeria- Mr. Chidubem 2013. Mr Abayomi Towase is thriving beyond his crown from MIN 2012; as he was recently involved in a soap opera shoot titled “What are friends for” in Lagos and has just done a photo shoot with James-Jola Photography showcasing a totally different look showing his versatile side in the modelling world. The sky is really the limit for this dude and I mean this literally… You Can Contact Abayomi Towase Via: Twitter: @abayomi_min2012 Facebook: Abayomi Towase Alvin MIN Facebook Page: Mr Ideal Nigeria(Abayomi) NB: This is not a paid post.
Oh lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me with your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22, 23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only you can transform me. Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do-totally and completely, no looking back. Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin. Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend, and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay […]
The rate at which divorce/separation is becoming a social status symbol is quiet alarming. The idea that many have done wrong is becoming evident in the news we hear each day and undoubtedly, it is a proof that many things have gone wrong. It seems that in no-time, people will have and attend divorce parties to celebrate their divorce anniversaries; they will choose aso-ebi, hire a hall and popular musicians much more just so they tell everyone they no longer live with someone they made a vow to. Sadly, the question of “when are u getting divorced?, when are you leaving her/him?” might become frequent. However, If ever you don’t want to be in the trend of this, it is time you answer some questions; Can you handle the weight & pressures of marriage? Are you getting married because of the things you hope to gain from the other person? Can you always be faithful? Can you handle the issues and the insults from family members and even your partner? Are you a forgiving partner? Can you tolerate the person? Would you place the person you are with above every other human being? (Two shall become one) Are you desperate? (All my friends are getting married is the most foolish reason to get married) As a man, can you put your wife ahead of your ego? (Your wife is your priority and EVERYTHING else including you, comes last. You are […]
Today, both men and women face fears about commitment, especially when it comes to marriage and relationships. If being in a loving and lasting relationship is so fantastic, why are so many of us afraid to commit? Signs of Commitment Issues Are you sabotaging your own best efforts to find the right person? You may be if you have some of the common signs of commitment avoidance below. You date unavailable men or women You end relationships before they get too serious You have a long list of requirements for the “perfect” mate that no one could live up to Why Does It Happen? A common reason for commitment anxiety is an overall fear of rejection, failure, and loss. People who experienced the divorce of their parents may be especially concerned about this. The idea of losing someone they care about is too much for the commitment-phobe to bear, so they create situations where rejection is impossible. Other reasons to fear a long-term relationship include: Fear of not having the skills to make a relationship work Uncertainty about current partner Worries over loss of freedom and identity Desire for other sexual partners Bad past experiences What Can You Do About It? If you’re afraid of commitment, ask yourself what scares you: Do you worry that you don’t have what it takes to make a relationship work? Are you afraid that someone will leave you? Do you worry that someone you trust will hurt you? Are you […]
The American Psychological Association Journal of Personality and Social Psychology released a study earlier this year that showed that men who were told their partners scored in the top 12 percent of university students demonstrated “significantly lower implicit self esteem” than men who were told their partners were in the bottom 12 percent. If you needed any further proof that the current state of masculinity has decayed to a skinny jeans-wearing, over-emotional, self-esteem lacking embarrassment, there it is. There are few things more “beta male” in this world than taking an emotional hit when the person you supposedly care about most knocks it out of the park. If you can’t tell already, I couldn’t feel more differently. Obviously I’m going to date someone I’m attracted to, but she better have more qualities than looks if she thinks she’s getting a ring. A girl who is smart, hot, and fun to hang out with is the Holy Grail, so the idea that this many men would be upset about having a girl with a brain is beyond me. Instead, this is why having a smart and successful partner should be the ultimate goal and not a source of stress induced erectile dysfunction. 1. A Smart, Successful Wife Helps Your Ego You bet that my future wife will be a success in whatever she does and you can guarantee I’m going to be happy for her. Hell, I’ll even brag about it. Your wife […]
Someone asked question to me through my Facebook page a few days ago: “Is it OK to ask God to give me a specific person as my future spouse?” This isn’t the first time I’ve been asked this question, though people phrase it in different ways. Students have asked me, for example, if it is OK to pray about someone you admire. Let me start my response this way: I definitely encourage singles to pray about relationship decisions. God is eager to guide us and give us wisdom about every choice we make—especially something as significant as who we will spend the rest of our lives with. But you need to keep a few things in mind while you are praying. Let me first address the men, then the women: For the Men: A young man asked if he could pray and ask God for a specific girl during the Q/A portion of one of my seminars. “You need to find out if she likes you first,” I replied, “otherwise, you may be wasting your prayers.” I like the way Proverbs 27:5 puts it: “An open rebuke is better than hidden love!” In other words, prayer is not intended to be a substitute for old-fashioned pursuit and courtship. If you like her, tell her and pursue her. One way or another, the answer is going to come from her, not directly from God. If she’s not interested then it’s time to move […]
As the name implies, a sign-seeker is always asking God to “show me a sign.” You may say something like, “God, if you want me to marry this girl, I pray that she will wear a blue shirt today.” If she shows up in pink she’s just out of luck–she obviously didn’t get the heavenly memo. There are examples in the Bible of God speaking through signs (see Gideon and his fleece, Judges 6:36-40). While this happened at different times in the Bible, we should not use this as a pattern for finding God’s will. Here’s why: Gideon and others did not have a Bible. We do. God has given us an entire book that we can read to understand His will. Gideon and others did not have this advantage, so God spoke to them through angels, dreams, and signs. Can’t God still do this today? Sure He can, but why should we ask him for a special sign when He’s already given us plenty of instruction. Look to the Bible before anything else. Often the signs in the Bible only confirmed what God had already spoken. This is true in Gideon’s case. God used a sign to simply confirm something that He had already told Gideon. I see this pattern over and over in the Bible–God speaks, then He gives a sign to confirm His promise. Can we ask God to confirm something that we think He is telling […]
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It is so true..! when you stop giving attention to the people who you like, if they care and like you enough, they will surely come searching for you ! My french teacher in high school is extremely so kind…! she was my teacher when i was in grade nine , and i loved her so much…! she was so so nice! she gave me great marks for the work i had put in.! she liked my bro so much ! well she never met him ! i did a presentation on him in class one day and ever since she is always amused at me for loving my brother so dearly..! And today when my english teacher did not come, she was the supply for the other half of the class…and out of the 30 people in class..! she waved a big “H I ” to me and i felt so special and she remembered me in her class from grade nine…and she asked me why i did not continue with french…and at that moment i wish i did ! it was not hard, i always scored 90 and above in french…..i do not know WHY i didnt take it ! If there’s one thing i recommend younger people, when like before you enter high school or after you enter…have a clear decision about what you want to do in life and be CAREFUL…