A group of men can gather for anything and an argument would break out. It may be peaceful sometimes but just as when in the house, they want to be in control, they also feel the need to be ahead within themselves when they are together except of cause, when they gather for this. From a keen observation, which I can’t say I totally enjoyed; one thing keeps men together. Am not talking about food here, so don’t conclude yet. It keeps them alive, gives them union regardless of skin color or race- this thing happens around the world and though little observation of what power it holds on them have been discussed, the spirit of football lives in every man. Oh and the commentators; how do those men think about what they say before they say it anyway; they are a funny lot I tell you. I know some women love football but none beats the men who scream and wail when the game is on. We all know how they act and pay less attention to us when they play games on PS4 and PS3- so imagine a stadium or a house when the premier league is on. What ever spirit that game has on them, I as a woman would never understand, especially since I do not necessarily see reasons to love football like my life, as they do. It is an interesting game no […]
Everyday we hear people talk about love, we hear them talk about the joy it brings, the sadness of not having it and even the crazy part each and everyone encounter. We hear people talk about love in relationships and many a time, we think that is the best place to find it, when in fact love is in everything. Its everything that ever matter and like the bible says, it is the greatest of all. 1 Corinthians 13:13 In loving our family members, we love those who will accept us no matter what, we love those who scold and embarrass us all in the name of teaching us a lesson; sadly sometimes some families forget that providing for us in clothing and money isn’t love. Most parents believe that in loving a child, the provision of clothes and money is more important; not a bad thing of cause but most times what a child needs is not just some material provision, they also need to know that mummy and daddy sees them as the best. All of which in turn builds the independent mind every child needs in and outside the home. As friends, we find out that male counterparts laugh at anything; easily forgiving each other except of cause, when rivalry happens or some sort of jealousy which results from the pride one has over the other bossing the other, which sadly happens among female counterparts too but […]
For years I had low self-esteem and I did not like myself. I hated my personality and I hated the way my voice sounded. Somewhere along the line, through the abuse I had endured growing up, I internalized the shame. I was no longer ashamed of what was happening to me—I became ashamed of me. I was hurting and, consequently, was hurting other people. Did you know that if you don’t like yourself, you are never going to like anybody else, and you won’t be able to help your spouse like himself or herself? You will spend all your time trying to prove your own value. Healing first comes by accepting yourself, knowing that where you are today is not where you will end up, and knowing that God is continually perfecting you, too. We all need to accept the unconditional love of God and acknowledge the fact that God doesn’t love us because of what we do – but because of who we are. One morning, as I sat in my pajamas praying, the Lord said to me, “Joyce, I really can’t do anything else in your life until you do what I have told you to do concerning your husband.” The Lord had been dealing with me because I was having problems being submissive. I had such a strong will and was still caught in my defensive attitude from being abused as a child. I was missing out […]
You will always be accepted by him; it doesn’t matter if you are a failure, disabled or condemned. We are all the same in his eyes. Act 10: 34- 35 You can speak to him in any language; Joel Osteen says if you speak country, God talks country. Psalm 34; 15 The peace he would give to you, is one no mother, father, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend can give you. And believe me, that peace helps you live with others. Psalm 27:10 He can NEVER hate you. He is love himself, if you believe a man/woman you see can love you then believe God loves you more. Romans 8:38 You can never support his work/kingdom or even tell people about him and need anything. Sure you would want something but when the need arises, he brings people to sort you out. Matthew 25 There is NOTHING too hard for him. Jeremiah 32:27 He answers prayers. It may take longer for him to answer you, since you are calculating your days on human race and to him a thousand years is a day but when you are suppose to get the answer, he would answer you. John 15:16 He never chases after anyone. He would not beg you to serve him or put issues in your life for you to come to him; you only realize that all other things don’t matter except him, so yes you eventually look for him and […]
The simple truth is that men are somewhat different than women when it comes to cheating, and a lot of that difference arises from the fact that men tend to define infidelity rather loosely. Keep in mind this famous statement: “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.” More generally, most men would say that utilizing porn as a sexual outlet while in a primary, committed relationship is not cheating. (Most women would disagree, and for some anecdotal proof of this, heterosexual male readers should just ask their wife or girlfriend what she thinks.) So does viewing porn count as infidelity? If it does, then a whole lot of men are cheaters. What about sexting? What if the person you’re sexting with doesn’t live anywhere near you and there’s no chance you’ll ever hook up in-person? How about video chat? And while you’re video chatting does it matter if your or the other person’s clothes are off? How about if you are complaining to this other person about your current relationship? Etc. Back in the pre-Internet days of yore the concept of cheating was pretty straightforward, as it involved actual in-the-flesh sexual contact. But nowadays a man in Paris, Texas can mutually masturbate, via webcam, with a woman in Paris, France. And should his wife or girlfriend discover this he can say, simply and in all sincerity, “But honey, it doesn’t mean anything. I mean, she’s thousands of miles […]
Women are profoundly sensual and sexual creatures, just as much as men. Yet somehow the idea that a woman in a committed relationship might have physical urges that she wants satisfied elsewhere, especially if her current man isn’t quite, shall we say, up for the job, always seems to catch people by surprise. And let’s face it, our societal distaste and astonishment over this particular activity may be a bit… provincial, idealistic, Victorian, etc. Pick your term. Of course, our cultural stereotypes tell us that it’s most often males who are cheating on the women in their lives rather than vice versa, but current research reveals that in truth nearly as many women cheat as men. (Sex outside a primary relationship, if the relationship is “open” and the rules are followed, does not qualify as cheating. Interestingly, the reasons men and women engage in relationship infidelity are often quite different, with each gender’s motivations generally paralleling our basic understanding of male and female sexuality. In short, women are usually interested in sex that includes (or at least hints at) some sort of emotional or relationship connection, while men are typically seeking a purely objectified sexual experience. Both scientific and nonscientific research confirms this dichotomy. For instance, a study by Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher found that of men and women actively cheating on their spouse, 34 percent of the women said they were “happily married” whereas 56 percent of males felt that way. Thus, we see that women are more likely […]
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It might seem odd that on this, our one-year anniversary, I am beginning a post with the declaration that my husband is not my soul mate. But he isn’t. I wouldn’t want to imagine life without James. I enjoy being with him more than anyone else in this world. I love him more than I ever thought you could love someone, and I miss him whenever I am not with him. I wouldn’t want to married to anyone else other than James, which is good, because I plan on being married to him forever, and he has to let me die first. But I reject the entire premise of soul mates. Do you remember those awesome Evangelical 90’s/ early 2000’s where Jesus was kind of like our boyfriend and we all kissed dating good-bye because we just knew that God was going to bring us THE ONE and then life would be awesome? And THE ONE would most likely be a worship minister, or at the very least a youth pastor, and we would have to be in college when we would meet at some sort of rally to save children from disease or something. We would know that he was THE ONE because of his plethora of WWJD bracelets and because (duh) he had also kissed dating goodbye and was waiting for me, strumming Chris Tomlin songs on his guitar as he…
Wole Soyinka is well known throughout Nigeria and the rest of the world as a brilliant playwright, poet and political activist. With more than 50 pieces of work, his writing includes novels, memoirs and a wide variety of essays. He is the first person in Africa to win the Nobel Prize in literature, and is respected for his willingness to speak out against repression and corruption. But beyond all of that, there are still many things you may not know about Wole Soyinka. Though his father was an Anglican minister, Wole is an atheist Wole’s father, Samuel Ayodele Soyinka, (whom he called S.A. or “Essay”) was an Anglican minister and headmaster of St. Peters School in Abẹokuta. His mother, Grace Eniola Soyinka, owned a market shop, was active in the women’s movement in her community and also was a practicing Anglican. Wole, on the other hand, was an atheist. His beliefs contributed greatly to his writing. He’s got some pretty influential family members Wole’s mother, Grace, was a member of the Ransome-Kuti family, known for its contributions to Nigerian art, religion, education, medicine and politics. His cousins include activists Beko Ransome-Kuti and Yemisi Ransome-Kuti, musician Fela Kuti, and Health Minister Olikoye Ransome-Kuti. He helped found the first confraternity in Nigeria While pursuing a degree in English literature, Greek, and Western history at University College in Ibadan, Wole helped found the Pyrates Confraternity with six others. It was built as an anti-corruption and justice-seeking student organization, […]
On this day in 1929 the “Aba Women’s War” was sparked. Thousands of Igbo women organized a massive revolt against the policies imposed by British colonial administrators in southeastern Nigeria, touching off the most serious challenge to British rule in the history of the colony. The “Women’s War” took months for the government to suppress and became a historic example of feminist and anti-colonial protest. The Aba Women’s War of Nigeria effectively arose out of: *A fear that the British would tax women separately from men. *Dissatisfaction with the low prices being offered for local produce e.g palm kernels and edible oil, while imported goods were kept at artificially high prices. *Hatred of the Warrant Chiefs and the Native Courts because of the corruption and unfair sentences imposed. Using the traditional practice of censoring men through all night song and dance ridicule (often called “sitting on a man”), the women chanted and danced, and in some locations forced warrant chiefs to resign their positions. The women also attacked European owned stores and Barclays Bank and broke into prisons and released prisoners. They also attacked Native Courts run by colonial officials, burning many of them to the ground. Colonial Police and troops were called in. They fired into the crowds that had gathered at Calabar and Owerri, killing more than 50 women and wounding over 50 others. During the two month “war” at least 25,000 Igbo women were involved in protests […]
My friend says “Call your woman what you want her to be”. With the nicknames going around though, one would wonder if we really want the people we love to be what we call them and the people we call friends to be ours. I’ve observed that the start of a relationship, marriage, friendship is always beautiful- people call each other baby, sweetie and a host of other names, however I’ve also observed that when war arises, some parties remember all the wrong the other party has done. Loving someone has never been easy, let alone loving two people. Its not easy loving yourself, loving someone else and loving all three together, little wonder C.S Lewis said “To love at all is to be vulnerable”. I have not written in a while now and I wonder why this would be the first thing I would write about- I mean love. Contrary to opinion though; love is not blind. It and the person in love know what they want. People know it when they are happy or not happy, people know it when they are angry too and people forget to call people what they called them through the eyes of love. I have observed vividly that loving someone means looking past their faults, whether it is on their physical body or in their character- we just love people and we have no reasons to stop loving them, except of cause, […]
Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all. Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy? Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad. Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget. My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your […]
Saw this on facebook and had to share… Men who Cheat and Men who are Cheaters A man who cheats is a Man who makes a MISTAKE and regrets it…the man who is remorseful and apologizes, not because he got caught, but because he is really sorry that he HURT you. A man who is a CHEATER, has a character flaw. This is the man who cheats with no remorse, unless or until he is caught. The man who cheats over and over with a sense of entitlement. Cheaters say things like “I am a Man” its in our nature. Cheaters have no remorse and JUSTIFY the action instead of apologizing. They JUSTIFY, they have a WHY and the WHY usually has something to do with YOU. Cheaters are insatiable. You can recognize them by the way that they interact with women. Everybody is fair game. They want the attention and the validation and are usually HUGE flirts. Ladies, you can forgive the man that cheats, but if you have a CHEATER on your hands….be prepared for a painful journey. These men do NOT know true intimacy. Their life is a lie and they spend their time in relationships in deceit. You can never be intimate where there is dishonesty. Recognize a cheater, he wont stop….and you will never truly have his heart.
When you gain so much weight and you have to loose it, you begin a diet plan. You join the gym or reduce sugar intake just so you become as you use to be or go lower than that. However when you relent, the fat you loose grow back on you twice as much. When a lady chooses to purchase the Brazilian weave, she continues with such because she knows that at any given time using a synthetic weave would tell you other wise. When we seek for a miracle from God, we pray and fast attending every church service, reading the bible, memorizing the scriptures. Praying everyday does something. Ever wonder why some people get results and you don’t? Look no further- its the power of consistency. You can’t begin a thing and stop half way expecting a result- except of cos you feel you have achieved a thing. A man who keeps showering his wife with gifts, gets more praise and a woman who cares for her husband gets more love. You have to begin a thing to finish it; the beginning could be hard or easy, it could be sweet or bitter but the end is always a sense of achievement.
He was born without a penny on him He took a journey to change his life He met a woman and fell in love Having no penny he became ashamed Bothered he had no dime He went to war to be called a man Waiting for the love she knew all her life He sent a note for her to wait Wait for five years he said Told to marry another, another more richer and graceful than him She cried and cried for the love she lost Meeting a sailor, he helped save his life Given a fortune for the life he saved He became a man wealthy as can be Returning to find his love betrothed to a man as wealthy as he Torn by his misfortune, he held a party to see her face Again and again she met with him Pleading and pleading for her to stay Her waist alone was to her betrothal With much money to fill a room, he lost his love. Died unfairly, died alone.