What It Takes To Succeed.

Yeah that’s right; you heard me… I’m talking to you… I’m calling you out. I’m looking you in the eyes, (ok well, not really since you are probably reading this article, but figuratively, I am burning a cyclops type hole in your face right now) and telling you that you don’t stand a chance. I’m telling you that if you can read this article, look through this list and not claim it as your own, then you should be a little worried. Actually, you should be very worried. You should drop everything and immediately question your existence on earth. You should find a mirror, look yourself in the eyes, raise your hand and slap yourself in the face. Got it? Now repeat that until you come to your senses and continue reading whenever you’re ready. I’m Talkin’ ‘Bout Street Skills Son! I’m not talking about the: study hard, party light, graduate top-of-your-class skills. I’m not even talking about the: slack-off, skip class, smoke weed, drink and party but still graduate, skill-set your $50,000+ diploma has lead you to believe you have. “I’m talking ’bout, step out your door, make some moves, and get-some-shit-done, kind of skills! Some, move out your mama’s house, quit your job — say “fuck the world” — and then actually go do it, kind of skills”. The kind of skills you develop in the real world, outside the bubble of your parents protection or the ideological indoctrination that has overwhelmed […]

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Plants And People

Plants/Flowers grow best when we pay attention to them. That means watering, touching them, putting them in places where they will receive good light. They need people around them to notice if they are drooping at the edges or looking particularly happy in the sunlight. The more attention a plant receives, the better it will grow. We need to be noticed in the same way. If we notice a family member or friend is drooping, perhaps we can pay some special attention to him or her. All of us need someone to care about how we are and to truly listen to us. We can share and double someone’s happiness by noticing and talking about it also. We help the people around us to grow by listening to their droopy edges as well as their bright days. People need care and love as much as plants need light and water.

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Bill Gates’ 11 Rules Of Life.

The text of this speech is allegedly given by Bill Gates in which he sets out 11 rules for life kids won’t learn in school BILL GATES’ SPEECH TO MT. WHITNEY HIGH SCHOOL in Visalia, California. Love him or hate him, he sure hits the nail on the head with this! To anyone with kids of any age, here’s some advice. Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world. Rule 1: Life is not fair — get used to it! Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself. Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both. Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss. Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping — they called it opportunity. Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them. Rule 7: Before you were born, your […]

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SEX AND THE CITY 10-YEAR-ANNIVERSARY: THE 10 BEST LESSONS WE LEARNED ABOUT FRIENDSHIP, MEN AND FASHION.

On Feb. 22, 2004—ten years ago, today!—the final episode of Sex and the City aired on HBO. It was bittersweet to say goodbye to Carrie Bradshaw, Charlotte York, Samantha Jones and Miranda Hobbes (we didn’t know then that we’d be seeing them again at the movies—twice!), but New York City’s fabulous foursome never really went away.   We revisited the girls on the small screen time and time again (thanks to HBO GO, DVD box sets and those slightly de-sexed reruns that are always on). And although older doesn’t always mean wiser, this 10-year-span has given us more time to reflect on the lessons SATC taught us on lovers, labels and lady friends. Here are the top ten. 1. Female Friendships Are Everything: Carrie worried about men and Manolos, but what sustained her through it all was the constant support of her three BFFs. Charlotte said it best, that, “Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates, and guys are just people to have fun with.” 2. It’s OK to Be Whatever: There’s no shame in being single (think: Miranda’s chocolate-cake-eating days) or being promiscuous (like Samantha, whose vagina should be in NYC tour books according to Charlotte). Some women have picture perfect weddings in their twenties (you might refer to them as Idiot Stick Figures With No Souls), and some don’t. Everyone’s in a different place in the life, but the only wrong stage is the one that makes you unhappy. 3. Be Open to the Unexpected: Samantha called herself a […]

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Death Isn’t So Bad

Death isn’t so bad, When only we exist and not live. Death isn’t so bad, When all is lost on human terms. Death isn’t so bad, When all we see is death itself. Death isn’t so bad, When no one knows famine in the grave. Death isn’t so bad, When the body feels no pain Death isn’t so bad, If the rich and the poor never escapes it. Death isn’t so bad, When death itself is easier than living. Death isn’t so bad, No wonder its pride. Death isn’t so bad, The tiresome will say. If only he knew, its what comes after death that really is death.

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Living From The Heart

Confucius said . . .’To practice five things under all circumstances constitutes perfect virtue; these five are gravity, generosity of soul, sincerity, earnestness, and kindness. Sincerity and earnestness are vital components of character. Part of it is to simply say what you mean and mean what you say! ‘I adore you,’ the young man said to his girl. ‘I need you; I can’t live without you; I love you.’ She pushed him aside saying, ‘John . . . I don’t want to get serious.’ John replied, ‘Who’s serious?’ Like Tennessee Williams might say, he had all the sincerity of a bird hunter’s whistle. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say is vital, but there is another important part to living a genuine and whole life: that is to LIVE what you say. Make your actions and your words the same. Living what you say is at the heart of sincerity. Louis (Satchmo) Armstrong was a superb jazz musician who also knew how to entertain. Satchmo used to say that what he played was life. He believed that his whole life, soul and spirit was to blow that horn. When he made music, it came from his heart. And it spoke to our hearts. Any life can be great when it is lived fully and sincerely from the heart. Let your whole life, your whole soul and your whole spirit sing in harmony. It is a matter of saying […]

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10 Men And Women You Should Never Marry by Jarrid Wilson

10 Women A Man Shouldn’t Marry 1. The Late Night TexterYou know, the girl who only texts you after midnight. She’s the girl who only contacts you when she wants something, or someone to talk to. You can go weeks without hearing from this person, only to rarely get a text full of smiley faces and a message that reads, “Hey! How are you?” They aren’t consistent. Don’t fall into the trap. 2. The Gold-diggerShe’s the woman who loves your wallet, bank account, and credit cards. Be sure to stay away from a woman who is only interested in material things, and how much of these things your salary can buy her.   3. The FlirtThis woman loves to flirt with strangers, waiters, and even your friends. The woman you should seek is one who flirts with you and only you, no matter the circumstance. That last thing you want is to be married to someone who will deliberately flirt with people in front or you, let alone behind your back. 4. The LiarDon’t trust a woman who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore her inconsistencies, she could eventually do something detrimental to your relationship. 5. The FlakeThis is the woman who calls off dates, constantly changes plans and never shows up when she promised she would. If you think this will change once you’re married, you’re wrong. A flakey woman will never put her man […]

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Cheating Is Cheating by Lola Komolafe

I had ’11 Minutes-that’s all it takes’ on my BBM status days back and some inquisitive friends questioned what I was up to. How do you discuss masturbation in this part of the world? I requested for their mail addresses and sent soft covers to them, some things are better left unsaid! 11 Minutes, how I love to read Paulo Coelho’s books. The book is about a prostitute named Maria and it teaches the importance of sex in the lives of both men and women. 11 Minutes can be crucial in an individual’s life who’s seeking sexual gratification. Maria states in her diary since her first masturbation her life as prostitute in Switzerland. This note is NOT about masturbation. My question is would you rather put yourself and self-worth under a curse by cheating on your partner??? If you find your man in the loo wanking himself while watching porn will that make a difference? If you catch your woman in bed with dildos or with another woman will that piss you off or will you be incredibly turned on? haha! There is no way to look at cheating other than the fact that it is wrong. The number of articles on the internet is overwhelming. What makes men cheat? Wouldn’t it make more sense to ask the guys? A quick comparison below… FOR MEN 48 percent of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated. 66 percent […]

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TRUE FRIENDS…

So what are the qualities of a true friend? True friends are good companions, they are people you enjoy doing things with, they are people you just enjoy sharing things with. In true friendships the activity is incidental . . . it doesn’t matter much what you are doing together as long as you are together. True friends are people you want to be with and people you want to be there for you, they are also people you have to be with when you’re having a hard time. True friends don’t just find the time to be with you on happy occasions, but they also make the time to be with you in times of trauma. True friends know a lot about you; but they also really know you. True friends have seen you at your best, and also at your worst. True friends don’t just put up with your annoying habits, dumb comments, bad jokes, and broken commitments; they also tolerate your periodic neglect, angry outbursts, and unkind remarks. True friends will always forgive you because they value the friendship far more than whatever it is you did to make them angry. True friends don’t just stand up for you, but they also stand up to you. True friends are on your side and, when you need them, they are at your side. True friends treat you like a fine painting, always placing you in the best light. […]

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CHARACTERISTICS OF A PROVERBS 31 WOMAN…

Virtue- proverbs 31:10 Faithfulness- proverbs 31:11 Reverence: proverbs 31:12 Goodness: proverbs 31:12 Strength: proverbs 31:17 Endurance: proverbs 31:18 Well rounded: proverbs 31: 19 Charitable: proverbs 31:20 Provider: proverbs 31:21 Well dressed: proverbs 31:22 Wife of a good husband: proverbs 31:23 Honorable: proverbs 31:25 Wise: proverbs 31:26 Kind: proverbs 31:26 Good mother: proverbs 31:27 Praiseworthy: proverbs 31: 28 Fear of the lord: proverbs 31:30    

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SILENCE

 In many ways, I have learned to be silent, I have learned that silence has a sound, It can mean anger It can mean respect, It can mean foolishness It can mean moving on It can mean guilt It can mean innocence It can mean enough It can mean happiness It can mean correction It can mean sarcasm It can mean analysis It can mean failure It can mean truth It can mean loss Silence can mean pain Silence can mean disappointment It can mean confusion It can mean wisdom  Silence can mean insight It has a voice It is the dimwit gambit To defeat his prosecutor.  Knowing how to use it is like a queen’s stamp For everything asked for.  

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Desiderata by Max Erhmann (A poem about living).

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others,even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the  changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment; it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the […]

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