After reading Lola Komolafe’s Yesterday Left Us with Today, I got a mixed feeling. I felt sorry for the ladies, who are in disastrous relationships, who feel they have nowhere else to go, I felt disgust for parents who for one circumstance of the other leave their daughters in the hands of men who to them would cater for their daughters and also lighten the burden and of cause, how can I forget, the most irritating character to me in the story called “John” who like many men feel they own most women they are involved with, who render themselves as wives before marriage to men or even husbands who feel they have the right to use women as boxing mates.
Don’t conclude at this point that you know the story based on my feeling because the story is awesome. It is a story of knowledge and suspicion and one I recommend many mothers to purchase for their daughters as unknown to many mothers, daughters keep things bottled up. You do not have to be a scolding mother to have a daughter that do not tell you things, don’t pock nose, just understand them and be smart in your conversations with them.
Yesterday Let Us with Today is a tale of two friends (Shalewa and Felicia) who met at a boarding school in Nigeria; they studied together, played together and graduated together. Like many friends they kept in touch but got separated by Shalewa’s scholarship to study in London. Letters kept them together as real friends but both friends who resided in two different countries had a change of perception to life and to men.…. Take note at this point, that this story was set in the time when letters and not instant messages were the best means of communication.
As the story develops, we discover that the writer had these two ladies sharing personal stories ladies would rather share with their mothers. We read about them making each other feel like they were both going through their issues together, leaving their guardians behind without asking for advice from them- just as many teenagers and youths do. Lola Komolafe made them so close that Felicia began to tell Shalewa of the man in her life, who to her was all she would ever need and one she could not live without. Sadly this is where the real tale begins, because this fellow “John” who had come into Felicia’s life as an angel became the Mike Tyson who used her as a punching bag.
The story which includes a lot more than I can tell you, opens up a thought in my mind- as to if many ladies- married and unmarried stay in relationships/marriages which is obvious to everyone (observers and family members), that some things should never be condoned by those they are in a relationship with.
I rattled as to what the society considered as domestic Violence? A larger theme of this story which is used by the author to depict the ideas those in such situations undergo, one which Felicia believes is given to her out of love. A theme which one can observe, affects the victim physically and psychologically.
The bottom line is that mothers are not only involved in parenting anymore, the environment and friends play a big role in today’s child rearing. As a mother, you can do no wrong if you try your best but if all you do is think your daughter is old enough to cater for herself, then you may as well help her get out of the issues she will bring home to you after all wrong has been done.
Thanks to Lola Komolafe for an insightful story that reflects the society, home and abroad, one which I believe will save a lady from her next mistake.
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